Self Care

I assumed that because I booked somewhat regular massages and facials, I knew all about self care.  I’d squeeze appointments in and race from one thing to the next.  

Booking appointments didn’t make me good at self care, it simply made me a good scheduler.

To really practice radical self love, I needed to learn to say no.  I needed to start saying no to things that no longer served me. 

It’s not easy.

Awhile ago, my dad was hospitalized for an infection.  After he was released I began visiting him each weekend.  He recovered from the infection yet I was still visiting.  While I love my dad more than words can ever describe, the visits were starting to feel a bit out of obligation.  And I still kept visiting ( he was medically okay and I see him during the week).  During the hour drive to him, I’d start to think about all the things I could be doing with the day.

My therapist made the suggestion to stop the weekend visits.

The idea felt sacrilegious.  It felt so wrong, yet I took her suggestion and that following weekend I didn’t visit.  I had to sit on my hands most of that Sunday morning when I normally would be visiting him.   I was uncomfortable.   I almost drove to see him.  

I survived.

In saying no to the weekend visits, I was gifted a day for myself. I fully recharge and, as a result, am more useful to him and others in my life during the week.  As I look back, I can’t imagine I continued those visits for so long.  

Self care looks like many things. Toady, for me, it’s therapy, 7 hours of sleep a night, a Thursday night AA meeting I won’t miss for anything, prayer, long walks in the morning with my dogs, dried mangoes, rose hip face serum, bringing my teddy bear on mydaily commute, a fancy blender, and a day workout.  I schedule these things and make them parts of my day.  I do them even when, especially when, I don’t feel like it.  I work at not feeling guilty in doing them.  I do them because I know they make me a better person. I do them because I am worthy of them.

Today, I know I need to treat my self care as non-negotiable as brushing my teeth.  

How are you practicing self love?

Sustainable Change



Last summer I completed an undergraduate degree I began in 1997.

Most of the time between leaving college and my recent graduation I wasn’t in class and I wasn’t completing coursework.   For the most part, I spent the large bulk of time sitting in fear about the unsurmountable amount of work it would take to complete a degree.  I finally met with an advisor who mapped out the work it would actually take and it was way worse than I had thought.

I would be in school for years completing night and online classes.

I was complaining to my sponsor that it didn’t even seem worthwhile to return to school because it would take too long to complete a degree.  She told me that the years would pass regardless if I was in school or not so why not try some classes?

When we focus on an end goal, especially our health, it’s easy to get overwhelmed with the work required to achieve it.  It becomes too heavy.  We stay in the fear and avoid working on it.  Sometimes we don’t know how totackle it or we try to do too much at one time.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve started a new “diet” and radically changed the way I ate overnight.  The change wasn’t sustainable and I didn’t get the desired results.

Why not do one thing that gets you towards a health goal? 

I love to have clients start with increasing their water consumption.  It’s something that you can begin today and pretty instantly begin feeling the results! Most people don’t know they are dehydrated until they experience a few days of being properly hydrated.  The way I feel when I am hydrated is drastically different to when I am not.  I feel like two different people.

There are so many benefits of being hydrated.  For me, I stay hydrated because I feel better, most of all it reduces fatigue.  When I am properly hydrated, I don't get the afternoon slump.  I also feel more full and reduces cravings for me to snack on foods I don’t really want.



How much water do you need?  It totally depends on the day!  What have you been eating? Doing?  The rule of thumb I follow is to drink fluids until my pee is clear.  Most days thats around 8 cups of water a day.  

Non-caffeinated drinks count towards your liquid consumption.  Clients who don’t love the taste of water (they usually grow to enjoy it) flavor their water with fresh fruits to give it a kick and help them to get in the required fluids.

We don’t reach our health goals overnight.  The most sustainable change comes from simple shifts like an increase in water consumption.   The time will pass regardless of you working towards your goal or not, why not start doing one thing today for which your future self with thank you?


Usually hydrated and always thirsty,





Welcome to my blog.  I’m so excited to begin this blogging journey with you!  This blog will explore health and wellbeing. I have some unique experiences that have shaped my outlook on health—ones that stray from the conventional and cookie cutter messages.

It’s easy to focus on weight as the only aspect of being healthy.   The multi-billion dollar weight loss industry wants us to believe that if we can lose weight, we will be happy.  We’re told that if we can just eat less, we will lose weight.  Given this grossly inaccurate bill of sale, it’s no wonder we end up defeated, overweight, and unhappy.   We can’t win this game.  We don’t fail the diets, the diet fails us!

Here’s the rub, being skinny doesn’t make us happy.  If being skinny is all it took to be happy, no skinny person would ever be unhappy.  I’m sure you know a few unhappy skinny people.  You might even be one of them.

Maintaining our weight is only one aspect to health.

That’s what this blog is about, looking at our health holistically.  A holistic approach looks at the whole rather than one part of the whole.  When we look at our health in a holistic light, we see how everything we do, say, think,  feel and eat is interconnected and impacts our wellbeing.  

To be truly healthy we must look at it all.  We must explore our diet, our spirituality, our relationships, and our entire lifestyle.  

Because there are many facets to a truly healthy person, we can inspire a healthy lifestyle with any one of those facets.  We can start to meditate and that practice will set off a chain reaction and have all our life choices become congruent with those new beliefs.  There is no wrong way to inspire health.  

I found my healthy lifestyle through food. Once I started to eat well, I was able to explore the other areas of my lifestyle that were not healthy.  It was only when I began to nourish my body with wholesome and vibrant foods, I had enough clarity and energy to explore the areas of my life that were no longer serving me.

Once I began to heal, I couldn’t NOT share the things I was learning so I became a certified holistic health coach.  I am now doing what I was created to do.

Here’s to the start of a very good thing!

Be well,